The holiday season is already here. It is the time most people spend the entire year looking forward to. It is easy to understand why it is one of the best periods of the year – people finally can switch their focus from work and other stressful activities to more relaxing activities like sharing stories with loved ones. Sadly, this same period that a lot of people consider relaxing is more stressful for far too many people; for example, those who find themselves very far from their families, those who are reminded of the loss of loved ones or those who are single.
When you are in a relationship, it can be easy to overlook the fact that a good number of holiday activities are tied to having a romantic partner to share them with. And when you are single, all those romantic venues are like giant signs along the roadways you travel telling you that “you are alone”. As if that wasn’t enough, those same streets are always filled with couples walking arm-in-arm, and the increasingly cold weather keeps reminding you about the necessity to have someone to cuddle at night.
Not to worry though! There is good news for all the single people out there. Here’s the silver lining – being single during the holiday season can be a real gift. Here are a few tips:
- Take a Social media break
Social media definitely have their benefits. They help us stay in touch with friends and family members we have not seen in years and who live far away. It has also become a popular place for sharing stories. Unfortunately, social media also come with a number of downsides, one of which is the effects of comparison.
Most social media users only upload images or videos portraying their best moments. The pictures are carefully chosen and passed through some of the best editing software and filters. The issue is that we sometimes believe everything we see on social media is real and authentic. We believe all our friends and family members are having the time of their lives, whereas you are just single and alone. This can hurt you more than it helps you if you are struggling with loneliness. Taking a break might sound difficult for some and even impossible for others but it is worth the effort. You alone can define the terms of your break; it could be a few months, weeks or just not checking your phone every 15 minutes.
- Invest in other relationships
Being single might make you feel like you are alone, but you are not! Most likely you have some great friends and family members who would love to spend time with you. Taking a social media break and being single during the holiday season mean you will have a lot of free time you can invest in those relationships (the time you might not have had if you were dating). You are free to visit whomever you want, whenever you want to. This will even give you the opportunity to meet new friends. What are you waiting for? Pick up your phone and ask one of your friends to meet you for lunch – you probably have a lot to talk about.
Have you ever thought about taking a holiday during the holidays? Though the holiday season is “commonly” known as the time most people spend with family, it does not always have to be that way. Especially if spending the holidays with your grandparents mean that grandma will spend the entire time asking you why you are not in a relationship; or sharing stories about her courtship and 40-year marriage with grandpa. Go pack your bags and enjoy a completely new experience. There are so many benefits to travelling. Bon voyage!
Being single should not stop you from feeling connected and enjoying the holiday season. You can use this as an opportunity to discover yourself and do things you would not be able to do if you were in a relationship. Happy Holidays!