Do you ever wake up in the morning having a strong positive feeling about yourself? When that happens, it just seems as though most things go your way that day, or you simply do not give much importance to the few things that do not. Unfortunately, there are also days when you wake up feeling less self-assured which could end up marring your entire day.

We experience these different states when we let our emotions dictate our actions. Developing your self-confidence will help you remain in the first state of mind mentioned above. The good news is that there are things you can do to improve your self-confidence, for example, learning from others.

Lessons You Can Learn from Others to Boost Your Self-Confidence

1. Failure can be a great teacher

Failure can be daunting for most people. Something that can devour the little confidence you might have about yourself. It can become so intimidating that it causes people not to take action or not to create goals. However, one thing you will learn from most successful people (e.g., Michael Jordan, Henry Ford and Thomas Edison), is that failure is part of the journey. This means that you need to accept failure as part of life and keep trying.

Once you start seeing failure as a teacher or an opportunity to learn, you will start developing the self-confidence required to carry on. The truth is, you are not really failing if you learn something from your mistakes, and you keep trying. “I have not failed. I have just found 10, 000 ways that just won’t work.” This is what Thomas Edison had to say about failure. Learning from others’ mistakes/failures will also come in handy because “you can’t live long enough to make them yourself.”

2. Education is from the womb to the tomb

Another valuable lesson you will learn from successful people is that learning never ends. As a child, you start learning how to express yourself in a way so other people will understand you. As you grow up, you spend most of your time in school learning, so you can earn a living as an adult.

But your learning does not end there, you still need to constantly gain new skills because the world is ever-changing. That’s probably one of the reasons billionaire Warren Buffett reads so much. This is an important lesson we can all learn from him in order to be more successful.

A belief in continuous learning and striving to learn from others will certainly help boost your self-confidence, as you become more equipped to make good decisions.

3. You are the CEO of your own life

Another important lesson you will learn from successful people is that you are the CEO of your life – you are your own boss and the captain of your ship. It does not matter if you are a secondary school teacher, a dancer, or the owner of a company, every day you make hundreds of decisions about your life. You choose to go to work or not, you choose to exercise or not, you choose to eat healthily or not, you choose to learn from others or not.

We are all responsible for our own lives. No one is going to make you successful until you choose to be. As the CEO of your life, you are responsible for everything that happens to you, good or bad. It is your responsibility to create a vision for your own life based on what matters to you. It is your responsibility to audit your life and make changes where it is required. Once you acknowledge these facts, you will start developing enough self-confidence to make important decisions about your life.

Learning from others, especially from those who have already discovered some of the keys to success, is a great way to improve your self-confidence and the quality of your life.

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Adaego M. Azi · October 28, 2019 at 6:34 pm

I like the idea of being the CEO of my life. Someone once told me that like a company, I should write my own personal mission statement and vision statement, as a guide to what I am now and where I want to be in the future. I also like the idea of auditing my life and making changes. Kind of a cool way to look at this. Thank you duppydomTEAM for the lessons on improving my self-confidence. God knows I need it. Failure can be a good teacher, failure can be a good teacher, failure can be a good teacher, …. 💖

    duppydomTEAM · October 31, 2019 at 3:13 am

    Thank you Adaego. Just like a company, a person should articulate who they are in terms of their current needs, values and goals, and what they want to be in some future state. A personal mission statement and vision statement are two documents that everyone should create. One way of increasing the probability of attaining current and future goals is to make your goals “public” – writing down your goals is a way of being public. And of course, once you start attaining some of your goals, your self-confidence will increase exponentially. 📄 🖊

      Adaego M. Azi · November 1, 2019 at 6:19 am

      Thank you duppydom 🥰

S. Jakes · October 29, 2019 at 6:15 am

Again, another interesting article 👌. Self-esteem and self-confidence are things that I think about all the time. Being a teacher, I like the idea that “failure can be a great teacher”. Obviously, I would prefer not to fail, but the idea that failure is part of life, and you can learn a lot of failure, is perhaps a good mindset to have. I also like the idea of being “the CEO of my life”—sort of like being a “boss lady”. One of the teachers at one of the schools that I teach has become my mentor—similar to the idea of learning from others. This article has a lot of things to think about. Thank you 👏

    duppydomTEAM · October 31, 2019 at 3:11 am

    Thank you, Boss Lady!! We appreciate your comments. You are right, there are many things that can be learned from this article. Self-confidence is something all of us need to be successful in life. Glad to see that you are making connections between the article and your own life. 🔄

    Adaego M. Azi · November 1, 2019 at 6:17 am


    Lisa Steffler · November 4, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    Boss Lady! I like that.

Bruce Peters · October 30, 2019 at 6:31 am

duppydomTEAM – I have read a few duppydoms on the site about the belief in continuous learning. “Education is from the womb to the tomb” and “you still need to constantly gain new skills because the world is ever-changing” are things all of us should be concerned with – particularly in the business world. I read the information about Michael Jordon, Henry Ford and Thomas Edison – it’s interesting that successful people from different walks of life often view success and failure in very similar ways. Thank you – very interesting read about self-confidence.

    duppydomTEAM · October 31, 2019 at 3:10 am

    Thank you, Bruce, for taking the time to read and respond to the article. In particular, I liked your comment regarding the fact that successful people often view success and failure similarly. I am sure you have heard the adage that “success leaves clues”. If we want to be successful, we need to go no further than to watch what successful people do 👀. And if you like learning from successful people, you will enjoy Bob Iger’s new book: The Ride of a Lifetime: Lessons Learned from 15 Years as CEO of the Walt Disney Company

    Adaego M. Azi · November 1, 2019 at 6:20 am


Lisa Steffler · November 4, 2019 at 3:49 pm

Building self-confidence is something all parents should think about when raising children. Self-confidence will take you a long way in life, especially when someone questions your ability. I keep seeing Bob Iger on all the talk shows. “The Ride of a Lifetime” would probably be an interesting read. Thank you duppydomTEAM.

    duppydomTEAM · November 10, 2019 at 1:53 am

    Lisa, thank you for your comments. Absolutely – one of the most important values parents should instill in their children is self-confidence. Children should learn at an early age not to “have self-doubt, be passive or submissive, or have difficulty trusting others”. 🪂

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