Writing stories about lessons learned in life is beneficial for both the writer and the reader. You might ask, “how do telling life lesson stories benefit a writer”? It helps the writer recall and look at those past experiences from a new perspective. It helps the writer to free herself from an experience that had imprisoned or enslaved her. It helps the writer to remember the lessons learned in the past which could still be applied today.

The process of learning how to write lessons learned in life is like studying to become an archaeologist. During this process, you will need to dig deep and sift through the sand for splinters from past events, and thereafter, put them back together to form a life lesson story. The following tips will help you through this process:

1. Everyone has a life lesson to share

The first thing you need to do before telling stories about lessons learned in life, is to believe that you have one to share. You must avoid thinking that your life lessons are not worth telling or that no one wants to read them. Everyone has a life lesson to share.

Self-doubt can be very destructive when you are trying to accomplish a goal. Don’t give credence to those thoughts telling you that your life lessons are not relevant or important. Life is full of experiences and lessons to be learned. People face challenges in different ways and learn different lessons. Your life is unique, so you have unique lessons to share.

2. Get inspired by other people’s life lessons

There is nothing wrong with borrowing motivation from people around you. If you know someone who has written a life lesson, read their lesson learned in life, and use it for inspiration. Better still, if you know the person well, talk to her about how she conceptualized and approached writing the story.

Additionally, the Internet is inundated with sites dedicated to life lessons (and motivational quotes). Visit a few of these sites to get ideas. Here is a site that not only allows you to read other people’s life lessons (i.e., get inspired), it allows you to share your own.

3. Determine the theme of the life lesson story you want to share

What is your life lesson about? What category does it fit in? What message do you wish to pass along? The theme of your life lesson is like its engine, it is what drives the story. It is important to convey this theme when recounting the events you wish to write about, because that is what turns those memories into a story. It is possible that your life lesson story has more than one theme, but it is important to have one as the overarching focus.

Choosing a specific theme/category helps you to know which events can be added to the story and which can be ignored. Your theme is that which will create a connection between you and the readers – the message that will make them recognize themselves in your story. Determining the theme of the life lesson stories you wish to write about also helps you to avoid going off-topic.

4. Set up your conflict and solution

Once you have determined your theme or the message you want your readers to focus on, it is important to identify the challenges you faced and how you overcame them. Setting up your conflict makes your life lesson story more exciting, because it will motivate the readers to keep reading, so they will know how you resolved the conflict. Below is an example, of what was just discussed.

“How Storytelling Stories Made Me More Successful”

I have always dreamed of being a successful entrepreneur. I had excellent grades in college, but when I started my business venture, I soon realized that all the knowledge I had was not enough to sell my ideas to people, because I was not able to create an emotional connection with themEncouraged by a colleague, I attended a seminar focused on connecting with people through storytelling. Afterwards, I applied some of the principles espoused in the seminar. My business has been flourishing ever since…

5. Start writing your life lesson story

Now that you are confident you have lessons learned in life that are worth writing about, you have determined your theme and added your conflict, it is time to start writing your life lesson story.

Do not get impeded by “language”. Some people are terrified of writing a story (and more so making it available to the public), because they feel that they have poor writing skills or poor grammar. Keep in mind that grammar is simply writing mechanics. You can always find someone (or software) that can help you with grammar – what really matters is the creativity of the story itself.

The first time you sit and put “pen to paper”, do not worry about your grammar or your writing skills – simply write something. And do not revise as you write – simply write. Aim for about 300 words, stop writing, and then over the next few days, think about what you have written and what else you could add to the story. It’s amazing what will pop into your head when you are walking the dog, watching television, or just relaxing in the bathtub.

On your second and third attempts, simply add more content to your story. Completed life lessons on the Internet range from 500 to 1500 words. The length of your life lesson will be determined by how much you have to say and how much content you add or delete during the revision phase. For most great writers, writing really occurs during revision. This is when you will add and delete content, and you might even re-conceptualize your theme and tweak your conflict and solution. Tell your story truthfully and focus on the reader. Your goal is to make an emotional connection with the reader.

Don’t forget that getting feedback from a second or third pair of eyes, is always an excellent way to help with editing your life lesson. Consider this to be the final part of the revision phase.

Hopefully, these tips will help you start the journey of writing a life lesson story. Telling stories about lessons learned in life is a powerful way to help people overcome their challenges, and a great way to memorialize some of the important lessons you learned in the past.

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Adaego M. Azi · July 16, 2019 at 4:39 am

Before I wrote my first duppydom, I browsed the site. This article was very helpful. The most helpful part was – “Aim for about 300 words, stop writing, and then over the next few days, think about what you have written and what else you could add to the story. It’s amazing what will pop into your head when you are walking the dog, watching television, or just relaxing in the bathtub”– so true. Thank you.

    duppydomTEAM · July 18, 2019 at 10:51 pm

    Thank you Adaego. We hope that if someone is thinking about writing a life lesson, s/he will read this article and realize that writing does not have to be anxiety-provoking. Thank you for being so active on the site.

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