When you reach a point in your life when it feels like a huge dark cloud has settled above your head; it is easy to think that you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You feel alone. You feel like screaming, “My life sucks, how I wish I was someone else!” Here’s why you shouldn’t feel this way:
Why You Should Not Wish To Be Someone Else
1. You are almost certainly setting yourself up for failure.
2. In the rare chance that you succeed, you won’t be happy.
3. At the end of the day, you are you, and you can never be someone else.
4. You will attract the wrong people in your life.
5. You are depriving the world of your unique gift.
Things To Do When You Think Your Life Sucks
- Acknowledge You Are Where You Are Supposed To Be
When you feel like your life sucks, the last thing you probably want to hear is that “you are exactly where you are supposed to be.” The reality is that negative times are part of life. Sometimes, things won’t go your way, no matter how prepared you might be. Sometimes, your expectations won’t be met and your goals won’t be achieved exactly when you want them to be. Sometimes, life sucks, and that’s OK. That’s how it is meant to be. No matter how painful those negative experiences might be, you need to accept them and acknowledge that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in life.
- Ask Yourself, “What Is This Situation Trying To Teach Me?”
Once you are able to accept that life is not always a bed of roses, the next thing you need to do is try to find out what that negative situation/experience might be trying to teach you. The reality is that those negative experiences always provide us with an opportunity to grow. We only need to be mindful and remain focused to learn those lessons. It might not be obvious now, but it will be eventually. For instance, when telling stories about your difficult past experiences, it might be easier for you to recall some of the lessons you learned from them.
- Ask Yourself, “What next?”
Hopefully, by now you have been able to learn from those challenging times. You have passed the test, it’s time to move to the next stage of your life, and so, what’s next? If you are like most people, you are probably aiming for the stars. That’s not entirely bad on its own. However, that approach can be counterproductive. Why? Chances are you are nowhere near the place you wish to be or where you are aiming for, and this could be one of the reasons you are so hard on yourself in the first place. “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You can’t skip levels, so you will need to break those massive goals into smaller manageable pieces. Focus on one step at a time, then move on to the next one.
- Find Optimism In The Practice of Gratitude
During trying times, your mind will most likely be swamped with negative thoughts and feelings. In order to move forward, you will need to be able to find that ray of light in that dark room. One way to do that is by practicing gratitude. By focusing on what you have already accomplished in your life, you might just be able to conclude that your life does not actually suck as much as you think. Keep telling stories about the good experiences in your life when you are with family and friends. Practicing gratitude will help you foster optimism and you will be able to embrace more positive feelings and emotions.
- Don’t Give Up
No matter how dark the room gets, how long the rain falls or how rocky your road is, the last thing you should do is give up. Giving up is NOT an option! The only way failure is guaranteed is if you give up. As long as you keep learning from your mistakes and keep persevering, you will eventually reach your destination. And you will soon be telling stories about your success; not to mention the fact that you will be an inspiration to others.