Do you feel like you are not living the life you want? Does it seem like every other person around you is living their dream life? It’s your life, so why does it seem like you are not in control? If you are still reading this article, then the assumption is that you are ready, willing and able to do what is required to change your life. Below are some important lessons for life that will provide some insight into why you might not be living the life you want.
1. You are constantly comparing yourself to others
The first reason you might not be living the life you want is because you probably spend a lot of time comparing yourself to other people (time you could have spent living your best life). Sadly, far too many people find themselves engaging in this behaviour, and social media has provided us with an extensive amount of material we can use for these comparisons. But why is it such a bad idea to spend so much time using other people’s lives as a benchmark for your own worth?
“Comparison is the death of joy” – Mark Twain. Comparison will mostly contribute to making you feel more miserable because it breeds feelings of envy and low self-esteem. Additionally, the information you are using as a basis for your comparison is likely inaccurate. Why? Because most people only present an edited version of their reality. Comparing yourself to others is extremely ineffective because we all have our own unique paths to follow. A better approach would be to compare your current self to you future self/selves (what you want to become). The discrepancy between your current and future self is your impetus for change. This will help you grow and constantly improve yourself (working toward your ideal self).
2. You are afraid of change
We all know that change is constant. We are destined to change, and the same applies to the people around us. We know this, so why are most people afraid of change? Mostly because we love our comfort zones and we fear the unknown. We feel safe and secure in our comfort zones, and anything that threatens this serenity is seen as problematic. But it does not have to be this way. In fact, being able to embrace change has many benefits and will get you a step closer to living the life you want.
So, why is it important for you to embrace change? The first reason is obvious – you have no choice! Change must happen, so you might as well learn to enjoy it. The second and probably the most important reason is that change helps us learn and grow. It teaches us to adapt to circumstances we never knew we could. It helps us discover ourselves. Embracing change also helps us to be more flexible in life. This will afford you more possibilities and opportunities in your life. There are many lessons for life you are going to learn once you become comfortable with change. Lessons that will help pave the way to a better life.
3. You are wasting time on things you cannot control
How are you going to have the life you want if you are spending a lot of time and energy focusing on things you can’t change? The painful truth is that there are many things that you cannot control in your life. The sooner you acknowledge that fact the closer you get to living the life you want.
How do you stop wasting time on things that are out of your control? Start by determining what is within your control, such as your attitude, goals, decisions, and work ethic. Then think about what you cannot control, such as other people’s values and how they behave. Spend more time on the things that are within your control.
Putting these important lessons for life into practice will surely improve your life. But it is also important to acknowledge the fact that you might not always get everything you want in life, and things might not always go your way – and that’s okay. There are many ways to define success!