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Amelia Roosevelt

 

Being Somebody

Posted On:24-May-2020/2:18 am

“You are somebody’s daughter, aren’t you?” a senior professor landed her inquiring eyes on the newbie, hovering over her.

That was the greeting received by my professor on her first day of employment as an assistant lecturer. Her father was a Vice-Chancellor of a state university. "Of course, I am somebody's daughter," she replied. (As you guessed, that became the first and the last time that professor talked to her).

The type of “somebody” that professor referred, our lecturer sarcastically dropped, do miracles in this materialistic world. It was not some casual question. It was (normally unasked but self-answered within their mindsets) directed here to measure her worth, to assess the dignity she deserves, to allocate the privileges. 

People do whatever they believe to become such “somebody”. 

The great philosopher Plato once said, "If you consider human ambition, you will marvel at its irrationality. Unless you reflect on what I have said and observe how strangely men are moved by the passion for winning a name and laying up undying glory for all time."

It is universal.

Fame or being somebody opens many doors, brings many opportunities, because people treat you for your background and your connections. You receive validation at every point, reinforcing your existence. Not only for you but also a generation of your descendants, realizing their dreams will become a habit. 

Being unidentified, invisible is scary. You don't know when at which step your dream will be shattered. You have to knock hard at doors, speak loud to be heard, stand on your toes, hold tight, to stop your opportunities from slipping.

So, it is better to become a “somebody.”

It is not an easy task. All who became somebodies had made a mark in this world. To make your mark economically or intellectually, you have to recognize yourself first. You have to identify what you are good at, polish those skills at every opportunity, learn at every step, be patient with yourself and never be lousy at managing your time.

People love success. People love successful people. People revere such backgrounds, delivered skills and connections to such.

However, it is not so sweet, as it seems.

Being somebody, you are no longer free to be edited or revised. You have set expectations and hatred in people’s mind. Nothing below is tolerated. There will be more drama than reality. People are no more nice to you. Every move will be traded. There is no hope to be better, no bad and good days to erase your mistakes and go by. You will be crushed under this pressure of being somebody. You will not have a real-life, but an exhibition. 

I am not against fame. But, do not allow the desire to crush you. That fame is really worth to have because it delivers power. Focus on that power to change the other's lives for better (nowadays it is the other way around. Somebodies have become exploiters, day-light robbers – that is why that hatred). Use that power to empower the powerless. That will become a shield to protect you. You are no more a crystal totem because you know the power and you know how to use the power.

Be a “somebody”, not to show off but to be powerful.

Be the change.

 

Takeaways:

1 : Fame is a flame. use it wisely

2 : Make your mark in the world. It will pay back.

Category:  Fame/Celebrity / Subcategory:  The power you earn can burn

Tags: fame, somebody, life privileges, power

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Lisa Steffler

27-May-2020

Amelia, being born in a very rich or prestigious family with people fawning all over you in one thing, but I do not understand why a person would have a goal of wanting to be somebody--to me, that sounds like a very shallow goal. I understand what you said about the perks of being a somebody, but I think there are a lot of more noble things to strive for. Being a Christian, I know that wanting other people to idol you, goes against Christian values. Much appreciated Amelia. Your duppydoms are always about interesting topics.

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Adaego M. Azi

26-May-2020

Hello again, Amelia. When I was a little girl, I loved being the daughter of my father, because he was so proud of our family name--in Africa your family name is very important. I started noticing that some family names were more important than ours, because they were rich, powerful and were held in high regard. But I also noticed that some of them were not very nice people. That was probably when the attractiveness of being somebody lost the appeal for me. I am still not concerned about being somebody. I just want to be a good person and do justice to my family name. Thank you Amelia. I hope you are still staying healthy.

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Amara Kone

25-May-2020

Amelia--I think that despite the drawbacks, most people want to be somebody. I do not think that anybody starts off their life thinking that they want to be average; to be lumped in with the rest of the crowd--I think most of us end up this way by circumstance.

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D. C. Lawrence

25-May-2020

Amelia, I love this duppydom. It reminded me of the duality of being a movie star in Hollywood. Some of these stars have tens of millions of fans on social media. These fans see the movies of their favorite stars dozens of times; and can even recite the lines spoken in these movies, word-for-word. Some fans are so fanatical, they stalk their favorite star, and even break into their mansions to see how they live. But, at the same time, these fans hate movie stars--they hate how much money they make; they hate their glamorous lifestyles; and they hate the fact that stars are so much more beautiful that the rest of us. And when these stars fall from grace, their fans delight at turning on them. That said, these movie stars are not without blame. They fight tooth and nail to become rich and famous and then complain about fame not allowing them to live a normal life. In the press media, they often revel in their own fame and power and some of them selfishly never use their money and fame to help the less fortunate. Amelia, I think people should heed your warning; being a somebody is good, but it is not always what it is cracked up to be. Good read.