That was something unexpected.
A call came. “Is Neville home?” Since my husband was not at home, I told the caller to contact his mobile and was going to hang up. “It is Sam here. I think you know. I have visited your home too. Can you remember? Will Neville be late? Has he gone far?”
With those, he told me that he wanted to tell me about something. Yes! Something secret, even my children should not know.
Letting my heart miss a beat I listened to his kind of whisper. “Haven’t you notice any difference in your husband recently?” A difference? I was a kind of feeling funny. Was there any difference in my husband? Hmmm, kind of Yes. He has gone fat during the lock-down days, was in his bed the whole time and was trying his best to stay away from work. What else? I didn’t go further, because there was no such difference as he indicated. Without saying so, I asked him to tell me what he wanted to inform because my husband was coming back. At once, he disconnected.
Who was that man, came out of the blue? I was not a good people person and mostly confined to my own world at home. Now I wonder, what kind of good impression had he developed on a hidden soul like me, to tell such a thing, acting my precious guardian angel? (Believe me, those were the real thoughts that came up in my mind, instead of doubting my husband)
After a session of cautious observations and having been satisfied with my husband's behaviour, the next day, I told him about the accusation. At first, he was dumbfounded. When he saw I was not serious about it relaxed a little.
So, we let it go. That person called me twice after that but found it hard to convince me, gave up. (Actually, I was thinking what kind of connection could he be having to bother himself that much, spending his money and time and risking his good name?)
Later we found it was a hoax. It was some crazy person calling around ruining families.
I have never thought about sharing this experience, but after reading Nadine Wu’s “over-analyzing” I thought that incident was some example of how people use our overanalyzing mindsets to ruin our lives.
We should be aware of such pitfalls we have in our characters.
It could have been worse if I were a person who overthinks. For some blessing, I had more than enough experience at my office to have an intuition to believe someone’s word or not.
This world is a weird place. A single weakness of yours could become handy in some enemy’s hand. It is better to know about ourselves, our weaknesses to handle situations carefully. Then only you can enjoy the “survival of the fittest”, being fit to tackle fatal blows from predators.
Let us be conscious men and women!
1 : Learn to control your emotions, it brings happiness
2 : Emotions are openings to your inner self. Be careful to whom you open your emotions.Category: Emotions / Subcategory: Be aware of your emotions
Tags: panic, emotion, ruining families, con men, controlled emotions, awareness