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Adaego M. Azi

 

Doing Everything Right

Posted On:01-Feb-2020/10:03 pm

We try hard to do everything perfectly. We plan, we organize, we research. We can put in so much effort and mental strength into something; whether it’s a project or even a relationship, and it can still not work out. It's a hard lesson to learn. Even if everything is done perfectly, you still might not get the end result you were looking for. It's kind of heartbreaking. But, it's also kind of reassuring. Even though it can be frightening to think that making the right choices can still end in failure, it's important to realize that, well, that’s just how life works. It’s definitely annoying, but at least it's unpredictable. We have all heard that saying before, “the only predictable thing about life is its unpredictability.” So, planning and making sure everything is perfect might not work out, but that isn't your fault, and you can't take it as such.

I have an example, albeit a small one, that I think represents this concept well. While I was working in a restaurant, I had decided I was ready for more responsibility. I thought about it and looked at it from every angle and decided to ask for a promotion. I went about it the right way: I asked my manager, I messaged head office, I even wrote a letter highlighting all of my achievements over the years I had been there. I had worked there for over three years and knew the restaurant back to front. I was ready to become assistant manager. I finally got word that I received the promotion, which included more responsibility and more hours.

It was my first day as assistant manager, and I walked into the restaurant prepared and excited. It was still early so it was only me and my manager in the store. She was helping me set up before the other employees arrived so she could leave me in charge. I decided to make myself useful and prepare and cut the vegetables - a job I had done a million times before without fail. However, as I was cutting, I slipped and sliced open my finger. The cut was very deep, and I was forced to go to the hospital. I ended up getting many stitches and I had to take a short-term disability leave from work, leaving my poor manager to cover all the shifts I told her I was ready for. I felt so helpless. I knew I was ready for the change, I had planned everything, and suddenly, a stupid accident ruined my plans. But, as I said earlier, that's life. Although I did do everything right, how was I supposed to prepare for an accident? I had cut vegetables so many times before, without hurting myself, but for some reason this time I did.

I felt so guilty and sympathetic toward my manager. After all the begging and assuring her I could handle responsibility, I hurt myself doing something that even newbies can do. But life’s unpredictable. We can't predict the future and we can’t plan for every outcome. Therefore, instead of driving yourself insane by trying to prepare for the unpreparable, just remember that life is unpredictable, and there's nothing we can do about that. 

Takeaways:

1 : You can plan and then plan some more, but you cannot always predict the outcome.

2 : Avoid the mental anguish and just accept the fact that life is unpredictable.

3 : Remember - “the only predictable thing about life is its unpredictability.”

Category:  Life / Subcategory:  It’s Unpredictable

Tags: perfection, right choices, failure, planning, responsibility, prepare, organize, effort, result, fault, acceptance, the future

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Bruce Peters

09-Feb-2020

Adago, this is similar to my duppydom about listening to fate. “The only predictable thing about life is its unpredictability” and “what's meant to be will always find a way” are similar concepts, and I agree with both. However, this does not mean we should not still try for perfection, or near perfection--this is a good way to keep your job.

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Amara Kone

04-Feb-2020

Adaego, I like the example you gave. The bottom line is that things happen by chance and there is no way around it--regardless of planning. Amie, I think you are referring to the Law of Attraction. Not so much bending the universe or the future to satisfy your needs, but the idea that “like attracts like”--we attract people and events with similar energy as we have, and we can change our energy to attract different people, events and opportunities.

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Amie Warwick

02-Feb-2020

Adaego--if I had to guess, I would say this need to be perfect starts with our parents. From a young age they teach us to do everything right and not to settle for less. Now, I hear that if you want something from life, put it out into the universe and the universe will respond. The meaning I take from this is that you can bend the future to satisfy your needs. In a way, making the unpredictable predictable? Good duppydom Adaego.