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Amie Warwick

 

Focus On The Now

Posted On:05-Oct-2019/11:08 am

I’m a worrier, I can’t help it. I worry and stress about any little thing until it either happens or doesn’t. Whether it’s going to a doctor’s appointment during the week, or life-altering things like the future, I am pretty much in a constant state of worry. This may be one of my worst traits. Stress and worry are terrible things that will gnaw at you until you whittled down liked a stick. It can lower your immune system, cause depression, illness, and even death. I have made it my mission this year to try and stress/worry less. Of course, this is easier said than done. Worrying about something isn’t really a conscious thing – worry settles itself in your stomach and takes over your mind without you even realizing it. Here are my thoughts about how to let go of stress and (at least try) to worry less.

The thing about worrying is that it accomplishes nothing. Whether something bad happens to us or not, worrying about it will not affect the likeliness of it happening. Of course, being prepared for tragedy can be useful. Setting up an escape plan/route in case of a house fire is a useful kind of worry that could save your life. I’m not talking about this level of preparedness. When I say “worry” I’m referring to the kind that, despite any preparation, still eats at you in fear of it happening.                                                                                           

For example, imagine you have the most important presentation of your work life tomorrow. Being prepared means you have spent the last week getting yourself into the right mindset – you have taken the time to make sure you know and fully understand the content, and you have organized your presentation materials for the upcoming day. But “worry” is staying up all night thinking about what would happen if you have a meltdown on the podium or chewing your fingernails thinking about what your boss will think of your presentation. This kind of worry will not change the outcome of your talk – if anything, it might make it worse, because now you’re sleep-deprived and “strung out”. Instead, try focusing on the now. Focus on how prepared you are and the fact that you will be the expert in the room. Dwelling on what might happen will only cause stress-related issues.                                                                                    

I understand that worry isn’t really something that can be switched off, especially when it’s related to anxiety. The point I am making is that in anxiety provoking moments, we need to try and focus our mind on the now, rather than the future; take a deep breath and let yourself relax so your talents can shine. However, if your worry/stress is affecting your life to dangerous levels, please seek professional help.

The reality of life is that bad things will happen. Great tragedy and minor inconveniences will happen with or without our worrying. But worrying about something bad happening won’t stop it from happening. All worrying accomplishes is making you miserable until the bad thing inevitably happens or doesn’t happen. But sometimes it can’t be helped. So, let yourself worry but don’t let it take over your life; instead of being hunkered down, worrying about all things great and small, just remember to enjoy the here and now, and not worry about the future.

Takeaways:

1 : stress and worry can lower your immune system, cause depression, illness, and even death.

2 : worrying accomplishes nothing. Good and bad things will happen and worrying about it will not affect the likeliness of it happening.

3 : remember, “a watched pot never boils” – stop your worrying and live your life.

Category:  the Here And Now / Subcategory:  Not the Past or Future

Tags: stress, worrying, accomplishes nothing, health, being prepared, preparedness, anxiety, relaxation, the future

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S. Jakes

17-Oct-2019

Amie, nice duppydom. People do spend alot of time thinking about the past and the future. lol--I was speaking to my friend about working out. I told him that I wished I was young again so I would still have my body. I also said that I better start working out so that I am not too decrepit when I get old. Then he said, so are you going to actually start working out now during my lifetime--we both started laughing.

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Adaego M. Azi

09-Oct-2019

Yes, Lisa, I agree that worrying is a part of life. In this day and age when jobs are hard to come by, people are constantly worrying about their job. For me, I worry/stress about losing my job and what I would do if I lost my job. I also worry about saving enough. I think this is a part of life. Thanks Amie.

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Lisa Steffler

08-Oct-2019

Amie, I think once you become a parent worry becomes part of your life. Before I got married and had children my life was completely worry/stress free. I am not to the point where I have GAD, but I do worry. I am all for living in the here and now, but I also think that worrying is a part of life - thoughts?

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D. C. Lawrence

06-Oct-2019

Amie-because I know the detrimental impact on heath and functioning, I definitely try to heed the warnings about the ravages of stress. I also know that stressors like a presentation are not necessarily a bad thing. They can signal the importance of the event and cause us to be more prepared. However, constant and excessive worry and anxiety (about nothing in particular) is a completely different thing and could warrant expert help. For example: [Generalized anxiety disorder (or GAD) is characterized by excessive, exaggerated anxiety and worry about everyday life events with no obvious reasons for worry. People with symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder tend to always expect disaster and can't stop worrying about health, money, family, work, or school]. Amie, thank you for bringing this to light.

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Bruce Peters

05-Oct-2019

Amie, thank you. Just reading your duppydom gives me comfort. My job is what gives me the most stress and worry. Here is my duppydom bio [Avid writer, cyclist and hunter. But spend most of my time in the office]--I am involved in these activities to try and forget about work and stress less, but thoughts about my job never leave my mind. I do not know how to stop worrying about work (my livelihood) even though I know that one day these thoughts could lead to a heart attack.