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S. Jakes


Food: The Heart Of A Home

Posted On:24-Aug-2019/9:23 pm

I believe that food is the heart and soul of a home – it can bring families together, give us an excuse to see our friends, and bring some joy into the kitchen. These days, however, with the introduction of Uber Eats, Just Eat, YummyWeb and other food delivery services, people are learning to cook less and less. This is understandable, of course; some people just don’t have the time, or the effort, to learn to cook, especially when it’s just for themselves. However, I argue that cooking is a unique sort of beauty and can be a joyous and useful skill.

Cooking is a great pastime that also acts as a useful skill, that every person needs throughout their life. But, it’s hard to know where to start. When I first started to cook for myself, I was terrible. I burned things, including myself. I mixed spices that did not go together, and sometimes I made a terrible mess. During one of my first times cooking, I even tried to temper chocolate (which, as my foodies know, is difficult for experienced cooks). My suggestion is to start out small, and with some help from professionals. Try baking first using premade boxes, such as brownies or cake. While the box mixes do a lot of the work, using them can teach you the basics of baking. Eventually, you will learn the little things, like when a mix needs more flour, or if it needs to be cooked longer under less heat. These tips and tricks of cooking come from experience. Ultimately, you can move on to baking from scratch, or cooking low effort meals, such as spaghetti.

Just remember, you will make plenty of mistakes – making mistakes is part of the learning process. Even today I still ruin a whole hour’s worth of work from senseless mistakes. But these mistakes will teach you something and will expand your knowledge of taste and technique. For example, my brother has recently taken up cooking. He attempted to make Fettuccine Boscaiola and greatly miscalculated how much cream the pasta needed, which resulted in it being very dry and bland. But he tried, and he learned something from it. The next time he attempted the same meal he knew what it was missing, and it was delicious.

I believe that everybody should learn how to cook, or at least understand the basics. By learning to cook, you open yourself up to so many fun and wonderful experiences. One of my favorite things I have done was to invite my friends to my house to cook. It brought us together and, in the end, we started something (group cooking) that all of us now enjoy doing.

Learning to cook also establishes independence. At least one time in our lives, we must all cook for ourselves. And because there are so many other options, some people might feel that cooking is an unnecessary skill - I disagree. The first time you cook a whole meal all on your own, it will evoke self-satisfaction and pride. And if you cooked that meal for people you love, the pride will be even more satisfying when you see their smiles and gratitude.

And if you cannot cook, but are eager to learn, here are some "simpy recipes for beginners": https://www.jennycancook.com/recipe/easy-recipes-for-beginners/



1 : Everyone should know how to cook. It’s a valuable skill

2 : Don’t be afraid to try. Just cook something. Mistakes are okay

3 : Cooking for others is one of the best ways to show your love

Category:  Food / Subcategory:  Cooking is a Valuable Skill

Tags: Heart, Soul, Cooking, Spices, Food, Baking, Foodie, Pastime, Skill, Pride, Family, Friends

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Lisa Steffler


Thank you SJakes, this was a very comforting read. You are so right DGauntlett-if you have children you must know how to cook. Whenever I am cooking, I am always thinking of my children, and always put a bit more love into it for them. The best feeling is when they try to cook for me on Mother’s Day-the meal is a mess, but at least they try, lol.

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S Jakes - Your duppydom on cooking is speaking to me. I love, love to cook. Although they are grown men now , I can still remember the joy I had cooking for two of my three sons. Some growing boys back then had bellies like bottomless pits, so the more they eat the more I would cook. One son who has no shame once admitted to coming home just for the food. I was more than happy to oblige. Most folks believe cooking for one is a waste of time. But there's still a loving relationship with me, my stove and wok every other day. I am blown away when someone say they've never learnt to cook. Trying a simple dish is where to start, if you have to write down the amount of spices and ingredients, then do so. When the meal is completed, pay attention to how it taste. Next time make the same dish, adding or decreasing until you think it taste the way you'd like it to. Eating out is much too expensive and sometimes even unhealthy. Still, treating myself once in awhile is a nice thing to do. Thanks for sharing.

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D. C. Lawrence


S. Jakes-I couldn’t agree with you more. I started cooking with my grandmother when I was about 8 years old (after following her around in the kitchen for years before that), then started cooking for my family, and then for myself. When I got to university, I was surprised to see how many of my friends could not even boil water-I just assumed that everyone learned to cook at a young age. Uber Eats, Just Eat, YummyWeb, etc., are fine, but if you cannot cook, or did not grow up in a home where cooking was a family activity, you will have no idea what is flavorful or what dishes are supposed to taste like-you will simply eat and be happy with what people serve you. I also find that learning how to cook (or cooking your own food) is the best way to develop your palate, which in turn makes you more adventurous when it comes to food. Adaego-I love the idea of taking cooking classes. Good read S. Jakes.

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Adaego M. Azi


Jakes-lovely article. People tell me that I am a good cook, so I assume I am. But I would like to take a course or two to learn how to cook different cuisines. Everybody should definitely learn how to cook, but some people I know (like my brother) are completely helpless in the kitchen. If you are single and you cannot cook, that is a bad (and expensive) combination.