Amelia, Florence or Celine.
Is it something so serious to bite-off a perfectly cut glossy nail? Rubbed that chipped part off she cuddled more into him.
“I love to call her Amelia, she really will be a striving defender like you. Florence also will match her for sure, with those little bright eyes and curly locks she definitely will have from her father.”
But, I love to name her Angelina, she will surely be an angel. Like you. He softly brushed a strayed lock off and kissed her forehead.
What if it's a boy? I would love to name him Alfred. Aubrey also good, but it means "Ruler of the elves". Why not Elmer, he will be awe-inspiring.
A typical conversation of expectant parents, I overheard in a public park.
We are so considerate in naming our little offspring. It reflects our hopes, expectations, and love.
When we step into the outside world our name is just a label to identify us from the others. Bryan, Geoffrey or Beatrice, it is just a tag attached to you for the others. To pick you out from the others. Then we start to get nicknames. I'm interested in those. Those are no more tags. It depicts how others see you. How others label you.
The most critical thing one can do to another being. Once you label them (stinky, crazy, skinny, drama queen) you are categorizing people according to your mindset. You are restricting the others view on them. You are de-humanizing them. Nobody could focus beyond that label. They could no more see the beautiful soul behind that name.
Most of the times nicknames are of a negative nature. Over highlighting teeny weeny cracks in one's life. Simple deviances in behaviour in a set world. Interpreted by the powerful as deviant (or criminal sometimes). The worst comes out when that person starts to act according to the label affixed on him/her (reinforcing the label). Mastering the deviance. No more s/he is free. That label chase behind him. If it is as a criminal or a wrong-doer that shaken trust will haunt over him throughout his/her life.
Criminal behaviour is not the only aspect. If we label someone as over-reacting to situations, people will not pay due attention to him/her. If s/he is complaining about a symptom of a critical illness, and people ignored it…? Labelling is such harmful in people’s lives.
People change all the time. The naïve will become an expert, the idiot no more an idiot. So, it is very improper to label a person. The cute little Angelina could be a daredevil in time to come (with what s/he received). Elmer will not be so awe-inspiring, but a quiet hidden character around.
Lord Buddha once taught his disciples it is not the name, cast or the family that matters, it is the deeds that give you recognition.
Today, I failed in recalling my best friend’s name. It was so humiliating. Forgetting my bestie. But, I found that a few days before. Slipping his name from my mind. Not him, but his name. In our conversations, I call him differently. There was no need to keep his real name in my mind because he is the only one in my mind. You are not a label, a one-dimensional, soulless creature to me. You are as the God sent to me, a rich soul which I cannot restrict to a name.
But, it was so embarrassing.
So, I devote this to my friend, see there is nothing attached to a name if it does not reflect its meaning. It is how you have been recognized in the other person’s mind that does matter. Keep a sharp eye on it.
That is you, for them. That matters.
1 : A name is nothing compared to the God sent soul
2 : Name is just a tag to pick you from the othersCategory: Personality / Subcategory: You cannot be named
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