Every single day of our lives, we are faced with choices - both good and bad - and the decisions we make in each of these moments go a long way in either destroying or shaping our future. Most of the time, we choose to do the right thing and we make the best decisions. However, there are times when we make wrong choices, not because we want to do the wrong thing, but because we think we we’re doing what’s best for us. After making a bad decision, we usually don’t realize what we have done until we begin to see the consequences of our actions. These consequences come with some emotional pain; a type of pain called regret.
A lot of people suffer from regret, they keep wishing that they could go back to the past and do things differently. In fact, they think that by looking back at their past with dissatisfaction, they may find some liberation from their mistakes. However, that’s usually not the case. Over the years, I’ve made so many wrong decisions in my life and I've also experienced the pain of regret. With all these experiences, life has taught me that regret does not solve anything and the only way to move forward is to avoid the pain of regret.
Here are three reasons why you must avoid the pain of regret:
1. Mistakes Are Inevitable
No human being is perfect; we all make mistakes. This means that mistakes are bound to happen, whether we like it or not. Although it is wrong to deliberately make wrong choices but even when we make mistakes, we can always learn from them. Therefore, when you make a bad decision, instead of regretting and wishing you could change it, you need to pick valuable lessons from that mistake and move on with your life. Trust me, the lessons you learn from your bad decisions will help you make better decisions in the future and also save you the time of regretting.
2. Regret Does Not Change Anything
The popular cliché “crying over spilt milk” is a true representation of the word regret. Worrying and stressing about a bad decision you made in the past will not change anything, rather you’ll end up physically, emotionally and mentally tired. Regret will make you wish you could turn back the hands of time, but wishes are not horses and you can’t really change anything in the past. Therefore, instead of wishing and trying to change things that happened in the past, you can choose to react positively and move on with your present life.
3. Regret Will Keep You Stagnant
Some people find it difficult to move forward in life, simply because they just can’t let go of the past. Regret does not bring progress, because it’s almost impossible to move forward when you’re constantly thinking about going backwards. It just keeps you stagnant. The decisions you’ve made in the past may be greatly influencing your life today, however, the future is a blank slate and your decisions today can make a difference in your future.
So, instead of regretting and trying to change things that have happened in the past, you can prepare for the future by making the right decisions today. That’s the only way to move forward.
1 : We are not perfect beings. Having regret is a part of life.
2 : We cannot change the past so stop dwelling on previous mistakes.
3 : The best course of action is to learn from these past decisions and move forward.Category: Emotions / Subcategory: Regret
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